The fuller picture is quieter. When somebody is upset, they can sit with them in silence and let them talk without jumping in to fix it.

A new friend becomes real to them through regular catch-ups after you meet, rather than one brilliant evening followed by nothing. A short call, a quick text, or seeing each other again soon tells you both that the first good conversation was not just a passing thing.

They like a small dinner where people can settle into a proper talk, and a late-night conversation can be worth staying up for. But they also like going home early, so not every good plan has to become an all-night scene.

They listen for whether you are trying to be kind, not only for whether you happen to be right. They move closer to people who can say a hard thing with care, because sharp honesty leaves a mark long after the point has been made.

They pull back when somebody is warm one week and distant the next, leaves messages hanging, or dodges the hard conversation again and again. They stop chasing when clear effort and clear words are missing.

Ask them about the film photography.